Week 4 – Patterns

November 25, 2008

Influence:

What’s important to you in a [desire]?

When you ask “What’s important”, people tell you their criteria. Criteria are often words like performance, security, safety, or value for money. The specific words they use are ‘hot buttons’ you can use to influence them. What’s important to you in a computer system? What’s important to you in a movie? What’s important to you in a partner? What’s important to you in a training course? Once you know which buttons to press, you can present your case accordingly, using their specific criteria words.

Hypnosis:

____, isn’t it?

“Isn’t it” is called a ‘tag question’, and when you add it to the end of a sentence, it makes it difficult to disagree with, doesn’t it? It’s good to go into trance, isn’t it? It’s enjoyable to learn something new, isn’t it? It’s useful to practice these patterns, isn’t it? If you say it with a slow head-nod and descending intonation, it makes it even more irresistible, doesn’t it?

Happiness

Emotions are amplifiers: they’re the driving force that increases what you focus on.

If you want to turn a small debt into a large one, it’s not enough just to take out your credit card bills and look at them every day; you need to worry about them too! Fortunately, this process works for amplifying nice things as well as nasty things.

In fact, the same principle applies with anything you wish to increase. Form a mental image of what you wish to increase, then feel an emotion. Emotions are powerful, and can move us to take action. The actions we take are always an expression of the thoughts we have been thinking (ie. the things we’ve been focusing on), and it’s emotion that lets us know (unconsciously) which actions to take.

Emotions are the difference between ‘knowing you should’ go to the gym (but not doing it), and ‘knowing you shouldn’t’ eat a chocolate cake (but eating it anyway).

For reasons we will explain later, one of the most useful emotions for amplifying the positives in your life is gratitude. Emotions are amplifiers.

Coaching
This week’s pattern is:

If you did know, what would the answer be?

This is a great question to use when people say “I don’t know”. However, it’s really important to have rapport and use ‘softeners’, otherwise people get defensive. I typically say Yeah, I know it’s difficult to know the answer to something like that [this softener paces their reality] but if you did know, what would the answer be? Amazingly, this gets a high-quality response approximately 50% of the time!


Business Networking

November 23, 2008

- Present yourself correctly
- Define and leverage your expertise
- Create advocates for your expertise
- Concentrate on your “flame”, outsource the rest
- Expertise vs. Skills
- Its about attract people towards you not broadcasting
- The power of random connections
- Engage with people
- Spend time with the right people
- Share your problems to find the right help
- Help others to succeed to help your business grow
- Communicate who you are – your passions, your expertise, your legacy.

Power Networking Questions:
- What is your expertise? (Creativity).
- What is the biggest project you are working on right now? (Myself).
- (Project should match expertise for congruency).

- Who can I put you in touch who can help you with that project?
- Then make the connection happen.

- Make your brand consistent.
- Have your 50 words on your business card.
- what message do you want to put out.
- People first, business second.
- People want to know who your are first, first then what you do second?
- Release myself outwards
- Turn myself into a magnet.
- Words, photographs and videos – work.
- Sell like a buyer would buy.
- Your connectness grows your attractiveness.


Awesome Facebook Applications

November 23, 2008

Web Presence – http://apps.facebook.com/web-presence/
My Links – http://apps.facebook.com/linkers/
Twitter – http://apps.facebook.com/twitter/
FriendFeed – http://apps.facebook.com/friendfeed/
StumbleUpon – http://apps.facebook.com/stumbleupon/
My Google Calendar – http://apps.facebook.com/mygooglecalendar/canvas.php
Business Cards – http://apps.facebook.com/bizcards/bc/
My Box – http://apps.facebook.com/htmlbox/
My Blogs – http://apps.facebook.com/allmyblogs/
Blog Networks – http://apps.facebook.com/blognetworks/index.php
Podclass – http://apps.facebook.com/podclass/
What I Do – http://apps.facebook.com/whatido/
YouTube Box – http://apps.facebook.com/videobox/


Some Good Url’s

November 18, 2008

http://30boxes.com/welcome.php
http://www.43places.com/
http://www.43things.com/
http://activerain.com/
http://www.amazon.com/gp/richpub/listmania/toplists
http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/wishlist
https://www.blogger.com/start
http://www.bloglines.com/
http://status.blogrolling.com/
http://www.buzznet.com/
https://secure.delicious.com/
http://digg.com/
http://disqus.com/
http://www.dopplr.com/
http://www.fark.com/
http://www.feedburner.com/fb/a/home
http://www.flickr.com/
http://friendfeed.com/
http://www.friendster.com/
http://www.furl.net/
http://www.goodreads.com/
http://www.hello-world.com/
http://www.jaiku.com/
http://www.jumpcut.com/
http://www.kiva.org/
http://www.konnects.com/
http://www.librarything.com/
http://www.livejournal.com/
http://ma.gnolia.com/
http://home.services.spaces.live.com/
http://www.bebo.com/
http://www.new.facebook.com
http://www.linkedin.com/
http://multiply.com/
http://www.mybloglog.com/
http://www.myspace.com/
http://www.naymz.com/
http://www.newsvine.com/
http://www.plaxo.com/
http://plazes.com/
http://pownce.com/
http://www.propeller.com/
http://qik.com/
http://www.rapleaf.com/
http://www.reddit.com/
http://www.ryze.com/
http://www.shelfari.com/
http://slashdot.org/
http://www.slideshare.net/
http://www.socialmedian.com/
http://www.spock.com/
http://www.spurl.net/
http://www.squidoo.com/
http://www.stumbleupon.com/
http://www.tagged.com/
http://technorati.com/
http://tribe.net/
http://www.tumblr.com/
http://twitter.com/
http://www.sixapart.com/typekey/
http://wakoopa.com/
http://www.debugmode.com/wink/
http://wordpress.org/
http://www.xanga.com/
http://www.xing.com/
http://answers.yahoo.com/
http://www.yelp.com/
http://www.zooomr.com/
http://www.zorpia.com/


Week 3 – Patterns

November 18, 2008

People want feelings, and they already have them

People want feelings, and they already have them. People think they desire things and experiences, but what they actually want is the feelings those things will get them. Here’s how you can find out what you really want. Choose anything you desire (this can be a thing, an experience, a change to yourself or your circumstances), then ask yourself “What would that give me that I wouldn’t otherwise have?” Then take the answer and ask the question again, about that. Ask it several times, and you’ll end up at a feeling (often something like freedom, security, peace or love). You may even feel the feeling while you do this exercise. What people really want are feelings, and they already have them.

Coaching

Where, when and with whom do you want [what you want]?

It’s important to put goals in a context. Where, when and with whom do you want to be assertive? Sometimes people say they want something all the time and everywhere, but they haven’t thought it through. “I want to be full of energy.” Where, when and with whom do you want this? “All the time!” You can come up with a counter-example if necessary. All the time? Even when you’re getting ready to go to sleep?

Persuasion

Experience shows that _____.

When you say “Experience shows”, it can confer an air of authority. If you then talk about other people, you start to build consensus, one of the core principles of influence. Experience shows that people who buy our products really enjoy them. Experience shows that companies who use our approach cut their costs by around 15%. Experience shows that people who learn these patterns become extremely influential.

Hypnosis

‘____ because …’

People are much more likely to do things when you say ‘because’, because they like to have reasons for things. You can learn to go into a trance easily, because you have an unconscious mind. You can start to make those changes, because you’ve waited for long enough. You can enjoy learning these patterns easily, because you learned
to speak and you don’t even know how you did it.


Few More Traffic Generators

November 15, 2008

- Email signatures
- Nichebot + trafficgeyser.com
- forums.digitalpoint.com or Sitepoint.com get an article written for $2-$3
put in my goto page
then www.articlemarketer.com
eBay.com
Youtube videos (tubemogul.com, TrafficGeyeser.com – 3,500 submissions)
Article Marketing (articlemarketer.com)
p.R.Web (submited press release to 60,0000 media worldwide)
Google Adwords/PPC
JV
Banners, Advertising.com Technorati.com
Facebook
Blogs
SEO
Co-ref (opt-intelligence.com,, getresponse.com)
Ezine advertising


Week 2 – Patterns

November 11, 2008

Coaching:

How will you know you’ve got it?

When someone has a goal, it’s important to find out what their evidence of success will be. This question gets them to do a future mindread of themselves. “I want to be rich.” How will you know you’re rich? “Because I won’t have to work.” You can get the unconscious more involved by asking this: What will you see, hear and feel when you’ve got what you want? The more vividly a goal is imagined, the more the unconscious can help achieve it. How will you know you’ve learned these questions thoroughly?

Happiness Tip 2 – What you focus on increases

What you focus on increases.

I’m sure you already know this, but it bears repeating. Whatever you focus your attention on over time will increase in your experience. What do I mean by focus? The combination of thought and emotion.

Worry is an excellent way of focusing to bring what you don’t want into your life. To attract what you do want, imagine having what you desire and feel the way you”ll feel when you already have it!

If you’re not sure what you’ve been focusing on, look around! Whatever’s been showing up in your life over time is what you’ve been focusing your attention on. Change your focus and you’ll change your life. What you focus on increases.

Influence

What’s it like when you _____?

When I ask what it’s like, you have to search through your experience to find the answer. In the meantime, you’re doing the thing I’ve suggested. What’s it like when you imagine having solved this problem for good? What’s it like when you think about actually living in this house? What’s it like when you imagine increasing your turnover by 20%?

Hypnosis

[fact] and [fact] and [fact] and ____.

If I state three things that are true, a person is likely to accept the fourth thing as true. You’re sitting here, and you’re listening to me, and you’re breathing in and out, and you’re starting to relax. You’re playing this game, and you’re reading this card, and you’re looking at the words and you’re continuing to learn. If there are too many ands, just link the phrases together. You’re here today, with a purpose in mind, looking at me as you begin to become curious about what you’re going to learn.


Week 1 – Patterns

November 9, 2008

Coaching – 1

What do you want?

The ultimate NLP Coaching question: What do you want? You’d be amazed how often people haven’t even thought about it before. Just as frequently, people will answer the question by saying what they don’t want. While that can be useful information, it’s good to get them to state their goals in the positive (remember, you can’t not think of a pink elephant). And once you’ve helped them discover what they do want, the next step is to find out how they’ll know they’ve got it – their evidence of success. What do you want to get from these cards?

Hypnosis – 1

You might become aware of ____ when you ____.

You might become aware of it, which presupposes it’s already there, and all you have to do to find out is the bit after the “when you”. You might become aware of a deepening sense of trance when you focus your attention inside yourself. You might become aware of a new range of possibilities when you allow your unconscious to start generating solutions. You might become aware of an emerging sense of confidence as you practice these patterns repeatedly. It’s just a possibility!

- Choose simple commands (E.g. go into a trance) to ‘fill in the blanks’ for this pattern. Start reading the pattern aloud, even if you don’t know what you’re going to say. Your unconscious will often fill in the blanks!

Happiness Tip 1 – Happiness is your birthright

Happiness is your birthright. It’s not just for the few, for the worthy, for the “righteous”. It is for all of us, like the air that we breathe. Stop for a moment. Feel the air going in and out of your lungs. We take the air for granted, and so we should. It does not have to be deserved, earned or worked for. It is yours. No further qualification is necessary. You are entitled to it. It’s the same with happiness. You may, however, have been conditioned into thinking that happiness is conditional (“I’ll be happy when I get x, y or z”).  What would happen if you suddenly began to realise that happiness is your birthright?

Hypnotic pattern

…said “____”.

I’m just reporting what they said, so there’s nothing for your conscious mind to resist. My friend ??? said to me, “Enjoy all the moments of your life”. And my friend ??? said “It’s easy for you to drop into a nice deep trance”. One of my teachers once said, “Learn to use hypnotic language”, so I did!

That’s the pattern!

Influence

One of the things you’re really going to love about _____ is _____.

When I talk about one of the things you’re going to love, it presupposes there are others too. And you’re really going to love them! One of the things you’re really going to love about this car is the feeling of power and control you get every time you drive it. One of the things you’re really going to love about our approach is how much money we’ll save your business. One of the things you’re really going to love about these cards is how quickly you become irresistibly influential.

Coaching
______, isn’t it? [aren't they, can't you etc]

This is called a tag question, and it’s a great way of building agreement, because it’s very tough to disagree with…isn’t it? Part of the coaching process involves guiding someone’s thinking in a certain direction. And it’s good to have tools to do that with, isn’t it? You can enjoy looking forward to achieving this goal, can’t you? Use a slow head-nod and descending voice tone to make it more irresistible. It’s fun to imagine using this question effortlessly, isn’t it?

Influence

Imagine how good you’ll feel when you _____.

The unconscious doesn’t distinguish between a real experience and a vividly imagined one. So engage their imagination! Imagine how good you’ll feel when you’re relaxing by the pool in your very own villa. Imagine how good you’ll feel when you have finally resolved this productivity issue. Imagine how good you’ll feel when you’ve proved to yourself that you can use these patterns skilfully.


Excerpts from Elsdon Best

November 9, 2008

Seeking about any such systems that exist within Maori culture for helping souls to the after life. Of course any such answer would respect any maori, iwi, hapu or whanau ritual and beliefs. I don’t wish to simply approach a Kaumatua on such matters as I sense this would not be fortcoming and would also not be acceptable protocol.

I obtained the following extracts from Elsdon Best:

http://io.knowledge-basket.co.nz/taonga/contents/taonga/text/dm/dm1.html

and

http://io.knowledge-basket.co.nz/taonga/contents/taonga/text/dm/dm2.html

No-thing explicit r/e the above – just around the matter.

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The spirit-world. The Poutiriao or guardians.

And do not teach any belief in the punishment of the human soul in the spirit-world.

The Maori belief was that all offences against the gods are punished by those gods in this world, not in the spirit-world.

In Maori myths, as preserved by the Takitumu tribes, one frequently encounters references to the ara whanui a Tane (the broad path of Tane), as, for instance, in the old saying, ” He mata mahora no te ara whanui a Tane.” This singular concept, which reappears among the natives of the Cook Islands, is a striking illustration of the mythopoetic nature of Maori mentality. The explanation is as follows:-

Prior to the death of a person in this world the spirits of his dead forebears come hither from the underworld in order to guide his spirit to the spirit-land. The path to that realm leads across the vast spaces of Tahora-nui-atea, the ever-rolling realm of Hine-moana, the troubled breast of the Ocean Maid. For the spirit- world lies far, far away to the westward, away at the bounds of night; where the ruddy form of Tane hangs above the realm of Hine. And so, when night approaches, Tane te Waiora, the Shining One, throws the bridge of souls far across the plaza of the Ocean Maid. Far away it stretches athwart the rippling waters, true to the setting sun that beckons where the sky hangs down, the gleaming spirit-path calls to the waiting spirits in the Aoturoa. For it is the ara whanui a Tane, the glittering sun-glade, the golden path of the setting sun.

Along that gleaming path pass the spirits of the dead, the path provided by their ancestor Tane, the path that leads to the realm of their ancient mother, Hine, the Dawn Maid. For, ever the setting sun and the sinking soul of man are linked together in the human mind, even as the ever-returning sun has helped to induce uncultured man to evolve the belief in resurrection or immortality. And that far-off region into which pass the setting sun and the soul of man is to the Maori the ” Hidden Home of Tane.”

Such is the Maori conception of the passage of the spirit to the spirit-world; and truly the thought grows that Moore must have been thinking of the ara whanui a Tane when he wrote –

And though his life has passed away
Like lightning on a stormy day,
Yet shall his death-hour leave a track
Of glory permanent and bright.

These spirits of the dead, having crossed the vast ocean to the red west, finally reach the ancient home-land of the Maori race, the land of Irihia, and there, at Hawaiki-nui, they separate. Those who sympathize with the Earth Mother pass down the long descent known as Taheke-roa to the underworld; those who sympathize with Rangi the Sky Parent ascend by means of the gyrating whirlwind to the heavens, and so pass upward to the uppermost heaven, where dwells lo-matua (lo the Parent), and are there welcomed by the company of celestial maids, the twelve mareikura. Thus we note in laments for the dead such words as the following :-

E mau to ringa ki te to! huarewa
I kake ai Tane ki Tikitiki-o-rangi,
Ma urutomo koe ki roto o Te Rauroha,
Kia powhiritia niai koe e nga mareikura
O roto o Rangiatea
Ka whakaoti te niahara i kona ki talao,
E hine . . . e.

[Grasp in your hand the toi huarewa by which Tane ascended to the uttermost heaven, that you may enter within Te Rauroha, that you may be welcomed by the mareikura of Rangiatea, then will all remembrance of this world cease, O maid."]

Such is the conclusion of a mother’s lament for her dead child, who died on the, island of Motu-kairangi,* (Now Miramar Peninsula) at Wellington, many generations ago.

We have seen that the Maori has never evolved a belief in the punishment of the human spirit after death. Yet he believed in the existence of two spirit-worlds, one situated under the earth’ and one in the heavens. It seems quite possible that this peculiar conception might have resulted, in time, in a belief in a heaven and hell such as those of Christian teachings. The Maori had already a very good substitute for Satan in our old friend Whiro, and the benevolent lo would fill the position of a beneficent deity. A study of these beliefs and the cult of Io shows us that Maori religion was in a very interesting stage of development, and a worthy subject for the attention of the ethnographer.

It may be remarked that the Maori concept of life in his two spirit-worlds is vague. Of that in the upper spirit-land we have collected no information, but in the underworld the life of the spiritual beings is described as being much the same as it was in this world, save that no form of evil exists in act or thought. Indeed, the denizens of that realm can scarcely be termed spiritual beings, inasmuch as they consume fold and cultivate it, wear clothing, and tattoo themselves – practices that can scarcely be said to pertain to spiritual life. However, perhaps we had better not enlarge on the vagueness of Maori conceptions, for our own ideas of life in the upper spirit-world are by no means too clear, though that charge cannot be brought against certain teachings of life in the subterranean spirit-world, wherein, peradventure, some of us are booked for an extremely sultry time.

The Rev. Mr. Yate tells a story of a Maori who considered the European heaven to be quite unattainable: ” Taki, an old man of Ohaeawai, is still hard and stubborn. He said that he was quite satisfied to go to hell, so long as he could get what he wanted in this world before lie went there, as he was quite sure that he would never reach heaven.”

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Those selected to guard and supervise all tapu things and places, good and evil spirits, and all ritual, were Tane-i-te-wananga, Tupai-whakarongo-wananga, and Rongo.

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Moncalm tells us that the last breath of a dying person gave the first conception of the presence in man of a non-corporeal principle. In some cases man has employed a word meaning “breath” to define the soul, but the Maori calls that spirit the wairua, a word meaning “shadow” or any unsubstantial image. The word ata, having a similar meaning in Maori, is applied to the human spirit or soul in some isles of the Pacific. The wairua of Maori belief is that which leaves the body at death and goes to the spirit-world. It also is believed to quit the body during the life of that physical basis and move abroad, as in the case of dreams. When any very tapu ceremonial was being performed by a select few the other members of the community remained in their huts lest their wairua be affected by the potent ritual.

This wairua, although invisible to all save the matatuhi, or seers, yet seems to acquire material form in sonic conditions, as, for example, in the subterranean spirit-world, where the spirits are sometimes said to live much as they do in this world. Against this we can place a very singular and interesting belief contained in what may be termed the inner teachings of the higher grade of priestly adepts. This is to the effect that after a certain period the wairua sloughs off its grosser qualities, when there remains an intangible, etherealized spirit called the awe. This is a word denoting lightness, and is applied to the down of birds, to clouds, and the soot deposited by the smoke of burning wood. Hare Hongi uses the term hamano to denote this purified spirit, a word allied to mano, which means the core or very centre – perhaps essence or refined element in this case. This is an interesting concept, and an illustration of metaphysical reasoning on the part of the ancient Maori.

Lord Avebury has said that “The savage does not realize the idea of a spirit as we do : it is always more or less material.” This cannot be said of the Maori awe, and the word wairua, denoting “shadow” and sometimes “reflection” as in water, can hardly be said to have had a material origin.

It seems to me highly probable that in my ignorance of this subject my system of terminology may be entirely wrong, but I have waded through deep waters in endeavouring to obtain a clear, well-recognized definition of the terms “spirit” and “soul.” Many ministers of divers sects have stated that both terms are used very loosely. One says that the soul equals life and intelligence, while the spirit is that which leaves the body at death. The theory of the tripartite nature of man seems to show the soul as man’s ego – a comparatively gross element – while the spirit represents the spiritual nature of man. If so, then presumably the soul does not survive the death of the physical basis. But here enter the dicta of the Handbook of Folk-lore, wherein “soul” is limited to the separable personality of the living man, “ghost” to the same thing after death, and “spirit” to a soul-like being that has never been associated with a human or animal body. Here it is the soul that is the ethereal element that goes to the spirit-world; but you must not call it a “soul” then, it is a “ghost” ; while “spirit” pertains only to inanimate objects – which, however, may not be deemed inanimate by uncultured man. The modern term “animatism” denotes the attributing of life and personality to things, but not a separate or apparitional soul.

This leads us to the Maori conception of different spiritual potential in man. Apart from the wairua, our Maori friend possesses a mauri. One of the definitions of “soul” already given would here be fairly suitable, but our definitions differ too widely to allow of the expression being safely used. The mauri of man seems to be his life-principle; it represents the life that animates his body, and it ceases to exist when death claims the body. The term mauri bespeaks activity, in the same sense that the old Greek term thymos denoted inward commotion, and as in Tamil the soul is called “the dancer.” The thymos was an activity that ceased to exist at the death of the body as also does the mauri. The psyche is, on the contrary, a something active, and survives the body : such is the wairua. Max Muller considers that the terms “soul” and “ghost” both originally implied commotion. Psyche originally meant “breath.” The mauri, then, is the life-principle that cannot survive the death of the body; hence the expression “Kua ukiuki te mauri ” is equivalent to saying that the person alluded to is dead. The mauri, like the wairua, is not located in any organ of the body.

The expression mauri ora is employed to denote the tapu aspect of the life-principle of man; and should this tapu principle become polluted in any way, then the life and general welfare of its physical basis are in extreme danger, inasmuch as they become exposed to the powers of black magic and all other harmful influences. The hidden meaning of this condition is that the loss of tapu means the withdrawal of the protection of the gods. So firm was the belief of the Maori in the power and far-reaching influence of his gods that his religion or superstition (call it which you will) was the most prominent feature of his life. It affected to a remarkable extent his everyday actions, and when he believed that the gods had withdrawn their help and protection from him he became very seriously affected, expecting every moment to feel the clutch of dread Whiro.

The Aotea folk say that the moa became extinct because its mauri was interfered with or polluted by the early Maori settlers in these isles.

In some Polynesian dialects mauri is used to denote a ghost, also “life” or “alive.” A variant form employed in New Zealand and elsewhere is mouri, which at Niue Island becomes moui, meaning “life” and “living” ; and Moui was a sun god of Egypt. In the Niue dialect fakamoui (faka, a causative prefix) means “to save,” and whakamaui bears a similar meaning here in our local dialect. Those acquainted with the Maori myth of Maui will note the suggestive nature of these data, for assuredly Maui represents light – either the sun or day – hence, like Tane, he is connected with knowledge, and so becomes Maui-matawaru (Maui the Wise).

We now enter the realm of animatism for a brief space in order to point out that not only – all the lower animals, but also all matter termed by us, inanimate, possesses a mauri or life-principle according to Native belief. Such apparently lifeless matter as stone could not exist unless it possessed this vital principle. This is a singular belief, and a subject on which much might be said but we have no time to deal with it at present. There is one form of mauri, however, that may be briefly discussed. A material mauri – i.e., an object called a mauri often consisting of a stone – was employed in order to protect and preserve the fruitfulness or welfare of a forest, a stream, the ocean, a village, &c. Such an object was a taunga atua, a sort of shrine, as it were, in which certain gods were enshrined by means of very peculiar ceremonial. These gods were the power that protected the forest or village. Should this emblem become vitiated or polluted in any way, then the gods withdrew such protection, and thus exposed the people, birds, fish, fruits, or trees to many dangers. Here we have analogous conditions to those pertaining to the immaterial mauri of man. The gods protect both; they are, We may say, present in both, unless expelled or forced to retire by some infringement of the laws of tapu, or lack of placation by man. Material mauri were employed by deep-ocean voyagers and by travellers on land journeys. It was a protecting talisman.

The Maori had the same objection to waking a sleeping person that Indonesians have, the danger of such an act being that the sleeper’s spirit may be absent from his body at the time. Again, the belief that such human spirits appear in the form of moths and butterflies may be traced from New Zealand and Samoa right across the wide world to Ireland.

The hau of a person seems to represent his vital principle, or vital mana, as the hau of land or a forest represents its vitality.

The term ngakau is used to denote the mind in some cases ; it is the seat of emotions, the feelings, and these are located in the viscera. The word puku is used in much the same manner to denote the feelings, as in puku takaro ( = playful) : puku riri ( = quarrelsome). Puku is the stomach.

Mahara expresses thought, memory, to think, to remember. Whakaaro denotes thought, opinion, understanding, also to think or consider. The term hinengaro seems to be used to express conscience and mind. The expression manawa ora means, “the breath of life.”

We thus see that the Maori viewed certain organs of the body as the seat of thought and the emotions, while the spiritual potentiae were not so located. These beliefs resemble those of Asiatic and Mediterranean races; hence we possess such terms as ” phrenics,” denoting “mental philosophy,” because the Greeks believed the diaphragm to be the seat of thought.

We have now another interesting matter to scan, and that is the old custom of performing certain ritual in order to despatch the soul of a dying person to the spirit-world. In some districts such ritual was known as the wehe, a word meaning “to detach, or separate”. A charm known by this name was recited over the corpse prior to burial, in order to despatch the soul to the spirit-world, to prevent it remaining here to annoy or frighten living folk, and also to prevent the living following it to spirit-land. The following is a simple form of wehe ritual: “Haere ra, e taku tama. Kei mihi mai koe, kei tangi mai koe, kei aroha mai koe, kei konau mai ,koe ki tou matua i waiho e koe i te ao nei. E oti atu koe. Haere ra, oti atu koe ” (“Farewell, O my child! Do not grieve; do not weep; do not love; do not yearn for your parent left by you in the world. Go ye for ever. Farewell for ever”). And then, in the evening, after the burial, all the kiri mate, or mourning relatives, cut their hair short with shell or stone flake, leaving one long lock on the left side of the head. It was believed that the soul would not depart to spirit-land until this ceremony had been performed.

Another name for the above rite is tuku wairua, or soul-despatching. Some years ago an old native and his wife were proceeding from one native village to another in the Patea district. As they trudged along the old man was taken ill suddenly, and lay down by the side of the track. Feeling that the end was near, he said to his wife, “They are calling me. The end has come.” The old woman at once commenced to lament; but he said, ” Do not lament. It is well. We have trodden the path of life together in fair weather and beneath clouded skies. There is no cause for grief. I do but go forward to explore the path.” Then the thought grew in the woman’s mind – there was no expert present to recite the tuku wairua, and she said, “E pa! Ma wai e tuku i to wairua ” (“O sir! Who will despatch your soul?”). Then the thought came, ” A, kati – maku e tuku” (“Ah, well; I will despatch it “). And so the old lady lifted up her voice and intoned the chaunt that sends the soul of man to Rarohenga. When she finished her recital the worn old companion of a lifetime had passed out of the world of light on the golden path of Tane that encircles the great earth.


BC – RW : ))

November 2, 2008

(1) Prof. Dev.
We can choose to be : ) or choose to be sad : (
THATS BOLLOCKS

You do not change behaviour on the level of behavior but at the level of awareness/consciousness

Awakeness (Awareness).

2 Hands metaphor Complement & Criticism

People in the ‘real world’ hold on to the criticism

You are not choosing… (think about it…)

We only do things for a feeling

Feelings come from us

We are a powerhouse of feelings that are inside us

So if we have them, why is it so difficult to access them?

Instead of choosing, we are metaphorically reading from a script.

Reading from the script is a reaction.

People think they are the script. People need a reference point for any give situation that may come our way.

We are not using our true power because we are using a script.

BC goes beyond the script.

PD changes the script. I.E. You are in the script.

BC goes beyond the script – to who you really are.

(2)
Suffering is many people are measuring their life through the wrong things.

Imagine if your only possession was a table and you wanted to know how much it was worth.

1st opinion 100. 2nd opinion 1000.

Which is correct?
They are both right.

WHo are you? I am amazing.

Reply for those who go – and why is that? I am not dead.

People dont consider themselves wealthy – why?
Because they are measuring with the wrong things.

Imagine tommowrrow you could have 200,000,000$ or not be dead Which would you choose?
The answer is obvious….

You need to become a high energy person if you want more in the physical world.

Start to measure your life with the things that serve you.

(3)
Sausage Machine

Law of Attraction is good (mantras, affirmations, prayer) but you have to take some ACTION to make it happen.

Taking ACTION is the sausage machine.

You get out what you put in.

Most people are at the wrong side of the sausage machine, waiting for the sausage.

In all areas SPMPERFHCL. You will just wait for it to happen.

Superhero are creators. There are waiters and creators.

Life is too precious to put your feeling on hold.

If you want love, sucesss… these area all feelings.

So what are you putting in….

Moving from WAITER to CREATOR identifying what you need to put in the sausgae machine to get out what you want to get out.

(5)
You’ve done nothing wrong.

Simpson Syndrome. Change the polarity (Reframe).

You have not wasted things – that was research…

Change from a -ive to a +ive

Dont read the book on someone who has overcome it. Associate with the person who has spent 10-15 years in that space and you know they have come through it.
Out dated – When the student is ready the teacher will appear.
Real Version. WHen the student is really ready, they become the teacher.

The Script, will say you don’t know enough yet. Learning more can be a clever way to apply what we already know. The script will say you are never good enough.

You are good enough, just the way you are. It’s just you may be working from a crap script.
There is nothing wrong with you. You don’t need fixing.

(6)
The only reason we ever do something is for a feeling.

These feelings come from us. They are already inside of us know.

I’m already there. I.e. on the inside. We are emotionally complete.

Being there is realising that we are already there and complete. The only reason we do things are for a feeling.

(7)
How far does your potential go?
ans – limitless or infinite.

When did your potential start?
ans – Always been there.

You are saying you are infinite and limitless.

People be Superheroes when there is a disaster. So why not be a superhero when there is not a disaster.

Go beyond the script and discover your purpose.

Who is this going to save most people? Superman or Clarke Kent.

Before you save the world, be who you really are.

Most people don’t know who they are, becasue they are living the script and it’s limiting them.

How do you know if you are in your script. The barometer is your feeling. If you are feeling : ) then yo uae choosing. If you are not feeling good : ( then you are choosing not to feel good.

Feeling :) out of the script. Feeling : ( in the script.
Encouragment does to people what hot air does to a baloon.

The best place to have a party is in between your ears.

Real change is when you see the same old things differently.

Use the shortcomings of others as a marker for your own progress.

The only thing that can ever hurt you is your own resistance to change.